We all carry an incredible creative potential—the innate power to co-create the results we long for. Yet, if you’re anything like me, that potential doesn’t always feel available. So how do you access it in the areas that matter most—relationships, finances, health, and work?
If you’ve been feeling stuck, blocked, or always under pressure, this may help.
How We Lose Connection to Ourselves
For many of us, childhood or growing-up years brought experiences that made certain parts of life feel unsafe. Maybe you were shut down for being curious about money. Maybe your family didn’t talk about sex. Maybe your dad lost his job or struggled with alcohol.
These were all part of my story, and the impact was that I struggled to feel safe and connected to myself in those areas. The people who mattered most to me couldn’t hold that space, so I unconsciously shut parts of myself down.
Without realizing it, I became closed off from healthy relationships—relationships I now see as safe, loving, and creative. I repressed my difficult experiences and tried to muscle through life by being hyper-independent. But as I grew older, especially in my forties, those unresolved experiences started surfacing.
I found myself longing for someone to rescue me, to connect me, to give me what I felt I couldn’t create for myself.
Discovering What I Truly Wanted
Looking closer, I realized it wasn’t really about things. What I wanted was the energy of my true self back—the freedom to be open to creative ideas, to take inspired action, instead of feeling blocked and heavy inside.
I started paying attention to the places where I did feel like myself. Where I could act without second-guessing. Where I enjoyed the process of doing. These moments carried a felt sense of freedom, inspiration, connection, and love.
A Practice of Reclaiming
One practice that helped me was to imagine the stuck places being surrounded by the light of my own self. I’d visualize the people who seemed to block or deny me as actually holding pieces of my light. Then I’d imagine the light between us merging and becoming whole again.
With patience, I learned to relax into that light—the energy of my true power that had felt caught up in them.
This wasn’t instant. It took persistence, and it meant allowing many uncomfortable emotions to surface and release. But slowly, I found myself freer, more grounded in safety and love. And from there, creativity began to flow naturally:
- an idea for a blog,
- working on my website,
- calling a friend,
- or simply choosing to do something I liked, instead of what others expected.
That’s how I began reclaiming myself.
How You Can Begin
Look around your own life. Where do you feel stuck? Who seems to hold the power to free you? Notice what comes up.
And if you can’t quite feel that yet, start smaller. Pay attention to the simple things you enjoy—a morning cup of coffee, a walk to the shop, a warm conversation. Even a memory of being loved can be enough to reconnect you to safety and love.
Stay with these moments. Let them remind you of who you really are.
Because here’s the truth: you can reclaim yourself—and live as your full, creative self—in every area of your life.
✨ Your potential has never been lost. It’s been waiting for you to turn toward it, gently and persistently, until it becomes yours again.